Who is Creating Your Life?

You woke up this morning in some location in the world, on some sort of bed. You may, or may not have a partner or kids to share your life with. You may, or may not have a job. Either way you may love or hate your life situation. You may feel you are in great health, or suffering from various ills. You may feel you have a supportive network of people in your life, or feel like you are alone in the world. You may feel rich, or you may feel poor. You may feel that things are going your way and you have all the right opportunities in life, or you may feel life is conspiring against you.
 
Do you ever stop and think how all this happened? How it all got created to this point?How is it *THIS* is your life?

Who created it this way?

One of the topics I feel most passionate about is that of taking accountability for our lives because I know how much it is responsible for our level of inner peace, or inner turmoil. Four years ago when I started this site, one of the first articles I wrote was called Self-Alignment and Accountability for Maximum Satisfaction. I encourage you to read that article in addition to this one, as all that it shares is as applicable today as it was four years ago, and will give you a greater depth of perspective on this topic.

The reality for most is that when things go our way, we claim personal responsibility. However when things don’t go our way, most of us are quick to find some external source as the cause of our state of affairs. I know that for many of us who have embraced a conscious personal evolution journey, the above logic does not add up. But I also recognize that many in our world see no problem with it. After all as the thinking goes, I get to take the credit for the good things, but surely not the bad things for I would have never created those. And yet, the truth is we do. Of course we can only recognize this when we become consciously aware of how the process of creation works. This is what we will further explore together below by examining the answers to the question – who is creating your life?

The Root of Creation

Since the beginning of historically recorded time as we know it, and for too many people in our society still today, the answer to “who is creating your life” is some outside force, most notably “God” or whatever people consider God to be. And who can blame us? For centuries, if not millennia, we have been conditioned that life is outside of our control, and that some “other” force is responsible for what happens to us and our world. And since religions were the dominant force for at least the past few thousand years, that “other” was God, as in the grumpy, old man upstairs. Numerous examples exist in each of our lives to prove this point. Whether we have a healthy or disabled baby; it’s God’s doing. Whether we have a prosperous year or storm destroy our farm; it’s God’s doing. Whether positive or negative, our human nature thus far has been to rely on an external creator, or source of power that controls our life. And so fear was instilled in each being, and became the foundation of life on Earth, as one never knew how this external force would act. It did not seem to matter if one was a “good” person or “bad” person, positive or negative things appeared to happen to both randomly.

For all this time, we did not understand how life creation takes place, and how events come to be. Today however, we are in the midst of a revolutionary consciousness awakening. What we were not able to grasp in the past, is now becoming understandable to us. We have discovered more pieces of the puzzle and are thus able to put together a larger view of life and reality. Thanks to the current spiritual and consciousness awakening on this planet, many people have moved out of religious fear-based paradigms to take more personal accountability for their lives. In fact many are recognizing the God source within each one of us, and the value of the phrase “we are God”. This is wonderful as humans are taking more responsibility for all of their thoughts, words and actions, realizing the inherent power we each have in the creation of our life. Consequently we have also developed a healthier view of God that spans anything from a loving being of light that is pure consciousness energy, to a Universal energy source of love that exists within each one of us – not a judgmental man in the sky.

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The Fallacy of Blaming Others For Your Circumstances

Aside from “God”, many people in our world also credit others for the state of their life being as it is. Just think how many times you have stated something like “It’s because of *fill in name* that I am in this situation.” I think it is safe to say we have all been there at one time or another. And yet, when we understand that our thoughts – our mind – is the most powerful tool of creation, we begin to see that no other can ever have any control over us, or the outcomes in our lives. Yes, people are free to do whatever they will, but ultimately YOU are in control of how you perceive or react to their words or actions. This is the core of your personal life creation power. We don’t want to, or need tochange the other. We simply need to change ourselves, or create ourselves as we would like us to be.

Of course this is not easy at first, but as with all things gets easier with practice. It is much easier to blame the inconsiderate partner, or the traumatic childhood, or the fast food restaurants, or prejudiced boss for our lack of health or happiness. But there is no escaping that each and every moment we are creating our life. How we respond to our environment and all that is in it at each moment is shaping your life this very instant. There was a time in my life where I did not realize this and I suffered. We feel helpless, we feel life is not fair, fate is cruel, we feel the cards have been dealt against us, and all of this is nothing more than us giving our personal power of creation away.

Oddly enough, the one person or source that most of us are not yet used to giving credit for our complete life creation is us, ourselves. Why not? Well, let’s face it, it is tough on our Ego and our Ego does everything it can to make sure we go easy on it. It is too tough for many of us to face and accept that we are the ones creating all that is in our lives. It has become too easy to use external sources as the scapegoat.

Modern Day Life Creation Concerns

As positive as our revolutionary awakening is to gain back the power of personal life creation, there is another element that has surfaced at the same time. While many people have abandoned blaming external causes like God and others as the controlling sources of their life state, some have simply shifted the onus to something else. What is that something else? Anything from extraterrestrial life or other dimensional beings, to the “Illuminati” or the “Elite”. Due to the fact as I mentioned above, that the fear-based paradigm has been deeply ingrained in us, instead of releasing it in a move towards love and personal responsibility, some people today continue to give away their power and blame the state of their life on more “modern” outlets. This is especially evident today amidst the talk surrounding 2012, apocalyptic world scenarios and the various levels of injustice in our world. For some people therefore, the dialogue now goes like this: my house is being seized, it’s the world banks’ doing, or my health is suffering, it’s Big Pharma’s doing. And, I am not saying that there isn’t some truth in the above two examples, but the point is that our personal creative power is above and beyond all of it. We are the cause and we are the solution…of it all.

Believe me, I know, this is not always easy stuff to swallow and come to grips with. We have been so used to blaming others for the state of our lives that for some it is a hard habit to break and move beyond. Today in New Age circles one is not short on hearing how the state of our weather is because of HAARP, and the state of our money is because of the Elite, and the state of our inability to know the truth about ourselves is because of controlling alien races. Again don’t get me wrong, each of those things may have a very real role to play in the issues mentioned, this article is not about disputing or proving that. What I am trying to share is that it does not serve us to keep blaming something outside of ourselves for the state of anything. It is all us, and until we come to realize this and live it, we will continue to struggle and suffer in various ways. The only reason that any “negative forces” if we can say, ever got to creating the world as it is today, is because we gave our personal life creation power away, and the majority in our world are continuing to do it as we speak. Instead of getting back our personal life creation power, we dwell, complain or pretend it doesn’t exist.

Ultimately, it is not about God, or your parents, or your coworkers, or the aliens. It is about YOU. Everything you perceive outside of you, is inside of you. You, as the observer have a direct impact on what you create, or give life to. Your focus and attention are giving power to whatever you are giving your focus and attention to. This is powerful stuff that is not meant to scare us, but make us more mindfully conscious.

Solutions To Embrace Your Personal Life Creation

Today I know without a shadow of a doubt that I am creating my life. My personal solution, or approach if you will, to living and creating it, is to focus on me. This is not at all meant to be a selfish stance, but on the contrary I choose to live by being the change I wish to see. If pollution bothers me, I take steps in my life to live as chemical and waste-free as possible. If the monetary system bothers me, I take steps to liberate myself beyond its confines and not live like a slave to it. If world hunger bothers me, I make sure that I eat in the most sustainable way for all beings on this planet and not waste any food in my own household. If the modern healthcare bothers me, I take preventative steps in all aspects of my life to not have to rely on it. All of these and more are just personal examples, and you need to take the steps that feel right for you based on the kind of world and life you wish to create. All I hope to do is inspire you to embrace your personal creative power because every single thought, word and action we take matters—shaping our world, our reality and our lives.

I have come to realize that I am directly responsible for anything that I have in my life by creating consciously in each moment. While I cannot control others and how they choose to impact my life, I can create how I choose to respond. This is not actually as hard as it seems. It just means that we need to be more mindful of each moment to act consciously, rather than keep reacting unconsciously. I know that each person’s life is ultimately unfolding as it needs to for their personal evolution, but it doesn’t hurt to know that we do not always have to learn through our own struggles or suffering. We can learn by integrating more conscious habits based on the observations of others too. After all, we are all in this together.

So to finish off, let’s focus on some more practical examples. Wherever you are in your life today, you got here based on the series of thoughts, choices and decisions you have been making to this point. Many people say that none of us know the future. Well, to a large degree we actually do depending on how consciously we are living. Every choice we make in the present is shaping our future. So if we overeat, or eat calorie-rich, nutrient-poor foods today, then we are creating a future based on weight and health issues. If we settle for some partner today because of pressure from friends or family, then we are creating a future based on a challenging relationship. If we are not nurturing our relationships to grow together, then we are creating a future based on growing apart. If we get into a career we don’t like just for the money, then we are creating a future based on a great degree of unsatisfaction. I am sure you get the point.

Therefore when it comes to making major life decisions that you know will impact you over a long period of time, take your time with them. Engage in some moments of stillness, get honest with yourself, journal, talk to supportive people in your life who can shed light on different perspectives, but most importantly envision the situation at hand and let your being tell you how it feels. Ultimately there are no mistakes, just easier or harder paths to the same place.

When it comes to the small, everyday choices and actions, know that nothing is irrelevant or to be taken for granted. Every single one of your thoughts is projecting a creative force. Have enough of a certain thought with emotion, and you bring that idea into reality. For best outcomes, align your mind with your heart. Do whatever your being is calling you to do to release yourself from fear-based and limiting belief patterns. Life creation is most in alignment to our soul’s purpose when it is done consciously and from the heart.

Finally, know that wherever you are today is the most perfect place for you. This does not mean you should stay there, it just means that where you are is part of your personal growth and evolution. If you are living with a great degree of inner peace and happiness, and like what you have created thus far in your life, keep doing more of whatever you have been doing. If there is some area that is causing you pain and suffering, start taking steps today to create these areas anew. The very first step is a change in perspective on whatever the situation at hand is. The next step is to immerse yourself in conscious life creation to benefit all your tomorrows to come, using the abundance of resources we have available in our world today.

We may not always know during our physical experience why things happen as, or when they do, but when we live life from a state of personal accountability we empower ourselves to know that nothing happens without some element of our personal creation and for the purpose of our evolution. As you take more accountability for all of who you are and all that you project to the Universe, you begin to see yourself as the powerful source of creation you are and create your life in alignment with your soul’s plan.

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75 WAYS TO LIVE A POSITIVELY PRESENT LIFE

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In a recent interview, I was asked to sum up what it means to live a “positively present” life. I responded with the essence of what it means to me: to live each day to the fullest, focusing on the positive aspects of life happening right now. It means living happily ever after now, not waiting for to live happily ever after. Though this does sum up what it means to live a positively present life, so much more goes into it. Living a positively present life is the culmination of many little acts, all of them adding up to a more positive and more present life.

I gave it some thought and came up with 75 ways to live a positively present life. And below the list you’ll find a free PDF download, so you can keep these with you. Print them out and put them wherever you might need a reminder of ways to stay positive and present.

1. Love yourself first.

2. Live in the present moment.

3. Don’t ignore the past.

4. Look for the good in everyone.

5. Don’t believe everything you think.

6. Be honest with yourself.

7. Do what you enjoy doing.

8. Give back to others.

9. Practice patience.

10. Don’t avoid conflict.

11. Know what really matters.

12. Learn to say no.

13. Learn to say yes.

14. Create positive rituals.

15. Find something to believe in.

16. Accept what you cannot change.

17. Don’t try to change others.

18. Stand up for yourself.

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19. Be grateful for what you have.

20. Avoid judgments and stereotypes.

21. Expect good things.

22. Be open-minded.

23. Find a positive outlet.

24. Use positive language.

25. Take chances.

26. Don’t sabotage your happiness.

27. Find your voice and listen to it.

28. Surround yourself with positive people.

29. Believe in your ability to change your life.

30. Don’t compare yourself to others.

31. Ask for help.

32. Take life one day at a time.

33. Treat others how they want to be treated.

34. Don’t let fear hold you back.

35. Avoid complaining.

36. Don’t create unnecessary drama.

37. Stop making excuses.

38. Get rid of mental clutter.

39. Get rid of physical clutter.

40. Set up clear boundaries.

41. Seek out opportunities.

42. Don’t take things personally.

43. Celebrate the little things.

44. Trust your intuition.

45. Help others help themselves.

46. Be a good listener.

47. Don’t take life so seriously.

48. Pick your battles.

49. Highlight your strengths.

50. Reclaim your muchness.

51. Look for beauty everywhere.

52. Let go of what you don’t need.

53. Work hard and play hard.

54. Know your life has a purpose.

55. Greet yourself with love.

56. Acknowledge when you are wrong.

57. Pay attention to what your body is saying.

58. Take calming time-outs.

59. See the world as it is.

60. Don’t wait for someday.

61. Look for learning opportunities.

62. Know your personal limits.

63. Make time to play.

64. Don’t settle. Ever.

65. Don’t waste time on hate and envy.

66. Agree to disagree.

67. Don’t assume you know what others think.

68. Handle stress positively.

69. Inspire yourself – and others.

70. Do your best in everything.

71. Turn your face to the sun.

72. Stop wanting to be what you’re not.

73. Know that you are not alone.

74. Pay attention to “I am…”

75. Be your own hero.

5 Anxiety-Reducing Benefits of Cultivating Loving-Kindness

“Just as a mother at the risk of life loves and protects her child, her only child, so one should cultivate boundless love to all that live in the whole universe.” – Buddha

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5 Anxiety-Reducing Benefits of Cultivating Loving-Kindness

by Stephen Joseph

In the first few moments of being introduced to the practice of loving-kindness, I was admittedly a little less than enthusiastic. I thought it thoroughly pointless and something only pretentious bohemians or experienced Buddhist practitioners pursued.

I was in my early twenties and suffering terribly under the ravages of at least three separate anxiety disorders. My mind was destabilised and full of fear. All my hopes for the future lay shattered and depression was beginning to knock at the door.

 

The introduction to loving-kindness came in the form of a book my parents gave me. One day my father had knocked on the door of my bedroom, which had been my reclusive hide-out for going on 4 years, and when invited in, had silently placed the book on my bedside table, then left.

My parents were desperately worried about my health and they frequently bought self-help books for me to read in the hope one would be a catalyst for some kind of revival or recovery. Their attempts hadn’t worked before, but this time it did.

The book was ‘Being Nobody, Going Nowhere’ by the late German Buddhist nun Ayya Khema. Within its pages were clear and practical instructions on meditation and the myriad of techniques for calming and centring the mind. The author also delved into various age-old insights into overcoming conditioned habits, beliefs, ideas and behavioural patterns.

What really struck me in particular was her study of loving-kindness meditation and how a person can transfer a feeling of unconditional love for all living beings, through to their daily activities. It was like a light bulb had been turned on inside my brain. The philosophy fascinated me.

Very slowly and surely, I began to practice the techniques described within the book. For a set period of time each day I’d sit down and cultivate as best I could a sense of pure love for people, whether near or far. Most importantly, I also developed empathy, acceptance, and kindness for myself, which would go on to have significant results in reducing my general anxiety levels.

When practiced every day, and when consciously applied to everyday situations, the development of unconditional kindness and love has monumentally positive effects on just about everything in your life.

These feelings of loving-acceptance are a choice emotion you can choose to develop and are not dependent on the type of people you’re surrounded by. What matters is what is in your own heart and not in the heart of another.

Below are 5 benefits I came to be thankful for after a number of months practicing loving-kindness.

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Mental Calmness

For an acute anxiety sufferer like I was at the time, the addition of loving and sympathetic thoughts to my mind was an extremely healing experience. It took a little time to bring these positive feelings to the fore, but when I did, I quickly began to notice a difference in my mood as well as a reduction in my levels of anxiety and apprehension.

Old habituated patterns of negative thinking began to disintegrate under the welcoming pressure of new thoughts and emotions. Love truly began to flourish within my mind and spread physically to my body.

Mental Clarity

Anxiety creates illusions and confusions which taunt and trick the mind. Small worries quickly become exaggerated dramas, whilst the world outside appears one large mass of bewilderment and danger.

The practice of loving-kindness reduces these fears and replaces them with more positive and beneficial states of consciousness. These include relaxation, equanimity, compassion, contentment and positivity. Above all, the mind develops a greater sense of clarity.

This clear sightedness allows you to look rationally at the problems once faces without reacting to them with unnecessary fear and upset. It also leads to solutions being a lot more forthcoming.

Emotional Strength

I was the puppet and my emotions were my puppet-master. There seemed to be no control over how I felt at any given moment and I was at the complete mercy of my anxiety disorders. Experience had told me this is as it should be and that it was ludicrous to think any differently.

I was wrong of course and with the cultivating of positive emotions in the form of love, kindness, and compassion, I began to feel my feet touching upon a long hidden bedrock of emotional stability and strength. As the waters of anxiety began to recede, so my ability to remain emotionally balanced rose.

Better Sleep

I couldn’t remember the last time I had slept peacefully and easily at night, without the help of medication. Most days I would still be awake as the birds began their morning chorus and the darkness outside slowly turned brighter. This sleeplessness affected my life terribly and impacted negatively on my health.

A few weeks after regular loving-kindness meditation I began to notice that I would fall asleep slightly earlier than normal. The nightmares that plagued my sleeping hours soon cleared completely.

The addition of loving thoughts into my daily thinking patterns changed the way my brain operated. Within another few months I was sleeping a full 8 hours and falling asleep before midnight. What’s more, the atrocious morning anxiety which I had suffered from vanished.

Increased Possibilities

After years of living like a hermit inside the home of my parents, my ability to see the many positive possibilities in life was close to zero. I saw no chance to find a job, no chance to meet a lover, no chance to again feel the sun on my face when walking along a beach. My whole anxious existence was centred inside the four walls of one house.

Bathing my mind in love, compassion and kindness for myself and everyone around me, was like having the keys to all the locked doors in the world. Gradually with practice, things that before seemed impossible or something to be feared appeared more attainable, available and welcoming.

As mental clarity and emotional balance sets in, so the wonders of life display themselves with crystal clear luminosity.

Anxiety doesn’t have to be a life sentence. With various techniques and strategies you can reduce and even eliminate inappropriate anxiety from your life. The development of loving-kindness in your day-to-day living is a great tactic to cultivate in order to lessen anxiety and increase overall happiness.

5 Delightful Ways to Live What You Already Know

“To me every hour of the light and dark is a miracle. Every cubic inch of space is a miracle.”

~Walt Whitman 

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OK, let’s get serious. I know that you know, even if you don’t admit it to yourself. How could you not?

In your heart of hearts, in the deepest place within yourself, you know the truth. The truth of living from love, of being free of whatever holds you back, of fullness, well-being, and contentment. Why pretend you don’t know any longer?

You might be afraid to acknowledge and live this knowing. You might be diverted by thinking your life doesn’t measure up or you’ve been dealt a bad hand or you’re a prisoner to your to-do list.

But if you go within and tell the truth, you will find this seed of possibility and turn it into the living flesh-and-blood reality of your precious life.

All you need to do is start with this very moment, then the next and the next. Let the truth expand and be alive in you – in your choices, your priorities, and what you value most. Don’t worry about what others will think; you only need to answer to yourself.

But you’re not being selfish at all. Live what you already know. You are at peace, and everyone around you gets to bask in your glow.

None of these five truths will be news to you. You know them already more intimately than you could imagine. Is now the time to start living them?

Enjoyment

Is it so hard to enjoy yourself? Yes, things can be hard sometimes, but for the most part, it is easy to make the choice to enjoy.

  • You can be caught up in your mind about all the things you should do, or you can sit quietly and drink a cup of tea.
  • You can worry about your relationships, or you can let your heart open and offer a hug or kind word.
  • You can think about everything that is missing from your life, or you can go outside and take a walk.

Recognize when you’re not enjoying yourself, and see what other choices are available. What do you choose?

Appreciation

You already know how to appreciate whatever you are grateful for. Because at the purest level of the totality of life, nothing is separate. There is just the substance of life that includes everything and doesn’t resist or reject anything.

From this point of view, you see yourself everywhere. How could you not be grateful?

It’s part of our culture to appreciate – how many times a day do we say, “Thank you?” Next time you do, don’t just throw the words away by rote. Instead, feel the gratitude in your bones. Consciously experience the “thank you” for that favor, compliment, or overture of friendship.

Then simmer in gratitude. Don’t even think about it – simply contemplate the possibility of living in appreciation. With distracting mental chatter out of the way, it’s so easy to be grateful.

Savoring

Life is bursting at the seams in every moment in an amazing array of people, objects, sounds, sights, situations. Rather than judging what you experience by dividing it into right and wrong, acceptable and inadequate, try savoring things as they are.

Don’t be concerned about liking or disliking. Come out from behind the fog of any thinking and see things as if for the first time. Like an apple, for example. Use your senses to take it in. Taste and smell it. Hear the crunch. Savor the deliciousness of this apple moment.

Now savor the experience of everything – your home, your partner, doing the dishes, walking the dog, working.

Be present with what is as it is by not rejecting one iota of it. This is it. Right here. Your now moment.

Wholeness

You might think that you are deficient or damaged, but what you already know is that you are whole. You may have had life experiences that tricked you into believing that you are not OK. Is that really the truth?

Even if it’s just a whisper, you know that before any ideas of you, you are limitless, infinite, magnificent, so full you are overflowing. Something in you believes that this is true. Because it is.

What would it be like to live from wholeness? No more fear of rejection or pretending you are a victim. You realize that every moment offers opportunities that support happiness and well-being. And you are free to choose them.

Instead of pretending you are damaged, assume that you are whole. Then the world is your oyster.

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Peace

You can choose to resist what is actually here in this moment, but you are going against the grain. Because you know that reality is already at peace with itself.

You don’t need to find inner peace. If you stop battling your own experience, peace is revealed, naturally. Stop running from your emotions or believing things would be better “if only,” and, effortlessly, peace will permeate your experience.

You have to work to be at war by thinking and resisting. Do you want to be peaceful? You don’t have to do one single thing except align your consciousness with things as they already are.

A blessed, effortless life is so available when you live what you already know. Surrender everything to enjoyment…appreciation…savoring…wholeness…peace. Wake up to the truth of yourself.

Why do people stop growing?

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Why do people stop growing? One key reason, I believe, is that they stop taking on difficult challenges. They want to live a comfortable life without the hardships that come with difficult challenges. That, however, is a recipe for mediocrity. Doing that is a sure way to live an average life.

Personal GrowthI have often talked about the importance of taking challenges to expand your capacity (here is an example). But I didn’t emphasize enough the fact that the challenges should be difficult.

I realized this when I wrote my first e-book (A Dent in the Universe) and prepared it for self publishing. It was a difficult challenge for me. Writing a book in a foreign language was difficult enough (I’m not a native English speaker), but the rewriting process was even more difficult. On top of that, I still needed to do everything related to publishing the book: finding a proofreader and a cover designer, formatting the book, checking for errors, converting the books to different formats, and so on.

After going through the whole process, though, I realized that I have expanded my capacity. The last time I took a challenge of a similar level was when I developed and published my first iOS app.

Through the whole process, I learned a lesson: if you want to grow significantly, make taking on a difficult challenge a habit.

That, however, is against our nature of doing comfortable things. We tend to avoid difficulties and choose comfort whenever possible.

So what can we do to overcome this tendency?

In his book, Mastery, Robert Greene has good advice: cultivate a kind of pleasure in pain. This is what successful athletes do: they have learnt to enjoy rigorous practice. It’s not easy to do all the hard work needed to become a good athlete, but they have learnt to enjoy the process.

Similarly, you should learn to enjoy working on a difficult challenge. Learn to take pleasure in pain. Having this attitude will give you a strong foundation to grow yourself upon.

How To Stop Being So Hard On Yourself

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Everyone gets rejected, says the wrong things and experiences failure. When it happens to you, there is no reason to be so hard on yourself.

You don’t have to be your own worst enemy. Beating up on yourself doesn’t get you anywhere. No matter what you will always be a person of value!

Instead, choose to change;create a new habit. Learn to treat yourself withcompassion, forgiveness and grace. Choose to be gentle on yourself. 

Read on and discover how to lighten up and think well of yourself no matter what happens. 

Look for the blesson. Look for the lesson. What went wrong? How can you do things differently the next time? Choose to grow forward and learn from painful situations. When you do, your lesson becomes a blessing … or a blesson. 

Make life a positive process. Believe in your worthiness and brilliance. Take small steps and go at your own pace. Forget about time, be patient and have faith.

Change your approach.  Become aware of your self-talk and think before you speak to yourself. Quiet your inner critic with kind words and loving affirmations, sprinkled with understanding and compassion.

Sit in stillness. Ask for guidance. Listen to your intuition. When you can remain calm, without judgment, you are ready to carry on. 

Don’t sweat the small stuff.  Beware of the temptation to make mountains out of molehills. Our egos like to make horror movies out of our errors. Ask yourself, “Will this matter six months or a year from now? Lighten up and go with the flow. 

Do the opposite. Reward yourself for trying. Spend time being creative. Do something interesting. Spend your energy focused on the important, wonderful and beautiful things in life.

Get off the pity pot. Everybody has problems. Nobody wants to listen to you complain about yours. If you need to feel sorry for yourself, put a limit on it. Give yourself 24 hours to be miserable; then get up and try again. Count your blessings, not your troubles. 

Create a loving mantra. I am beautiful, kind and enough. Say it to yourself when you are down or when you feel rejected and defeated. Repeat it when you catch yourself falling back into self-criticism. Repeat it when you can’t sleep at night. Practice it every time you have to wait in line.

Get excited about your future. Learn to expect the best. Remain positive. Refuse to give up. I’m on your side and I have all the faith in the world in you.

The 7 Secret Steps to Your “Something More”

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There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living – Nelson Mandela

You know what I’ve realized … when it comes down to it, many of us are in the same boat. We all want to live the life we’ve imagined for ourselves and feel really good as we live it.

Would you say that’s true for you too?

I know it is for me and when I realized almost six years ago that something was “off”, I also knew I had to find the solution.

I wasn’t sure what specifically was “wrong”, but I knew my life was not supposed to be about working a lot but never feeling like I was getting enough done, worrying about one thing or another, stressing about the future, and questioning if I was doing everything I was meant to be doing.

I just knew that couldn’t be the way things were supposed to play out. You’re not meant to go through life feeling as if there is “Something More”.

So, I went on a search to figure out what was “off” and what I realized was that I wasn’t  listening to that voice deep inside. I was ignoring the inner voice that urges us to believe in ourselves and what we’re really capable of so we can go after those things we truly are meant to do.

It’s an easy trap to fall into isn’t it? There are usually fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs always ready and willing to hold us back and keep us trapped exactly where we are.

But, once you realize you’ve fallen into a trap, the only logical thing to do is find the way out — and so that’s what I committed to doing.

That commitment to find my way to my “Something More” changed the entire course of my life and lead me to the discovery of the steps that always need to be taken to accomplish the things important to you.

Because, let’s be real, it’s one thing to realize that there is something you want to accomplish, BUT its an entire different thing to know exactly what you need to do get there.

The Possibility Spiral

When it comes to accomplishing anything what I figured out is that there is a specific path. It’s called your Possibility Spiral and there are seven steps you’ve got to take to travel up any Possibility Spiral.

As many of you already know, for the last year, I’ve been researching these 7 steps and putting together an online video course that shows exactly how to take each step and accomplish those things that are important to you.

I am so excited the time has finally come and the course officially launches today. And, I am hoping you will join the course. The course is all online and you can watch it from the comfort of your home or office or just about anywhere else. All you need is the internet to access the special member-only website.

If you do decide to join, you will get immediate access to all the videos and tools you need to accomplish exactly what you want. And, of course you will have complete access to me as you walk through the 7 steps because I am committed to helping every single person who is looking for their “Something More” find their way to it.

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It’s 2013 – Time To Make Some Big Things Happen

I really believe with all my heart that 2013 is the year that we all are meant to make some BIG things happen. Don’t you feel that way too? It is time and if we put in the work this year, there’s no way we will not accomplish the things we want.

I would love to show you the roadmap and walk you through the specific seven steps you need to take to accomplish whatever it is you want – even if you’re unsure as to exactly  what that may be.

If you’re interested, you can Click Here and find out more information about the course.

I hope you’ll join the course, but even if you don’t, you know I am always more than willing to help you out in any and every way I can. If you have any questions about the course or even if you just want to say hello, please just use the contact form or e-mail me at sibyl@possibilityoftoday.com

The Possibility of Today:

1. Commit today to getting to where you want to be. No more excuses. No more allowing the Chief Negativity Officer in Your Mind to hold you back. It’s time to go.

2. Take the First Step Today. Start rethinking what’s possible and take Step #1.

The 7 Secret Steps to Your Something More:

 Step #1 – Rethink What’s Possible

Step #2 – Re-envision success & training on the Possibility Spiral & Infinite Loops

Step #3 – Get Organized

Step #4 – Meet Your Extraordinary Side

Step #5 – Practice Your Extraordinary Side Mindset

Step #6 – Access the Right Information and Creating Extraordinary Relationships

Step #7 – Accelerate Your Progress with Your Power Circle

Live Today Better than Yesterday.

HOW TO STAY POSITIVE – NO MATTER WHAT

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Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference. – Winston Churchill

Creating your reality is one of the most empowering things you can do. You can look at a situation and see the good or you can look at the same situation and choose to see the bad. Often, your view of what’s happening is filtered through the lens of your thoughts.

Positive thoughts create more abundance. If you want better relationships, to be more successful in your career or to find a level of happiness that brings you peace and comfort, then focusing on what is right, on what is positive in your life, is a good start.

Negative thoughts, on the other hand, contribute to feelings of dissatisfaction, disappointment and defeat. You think the worst – and then it happens. Learning how to change your negative thoughts is the difference-maker between living a life filled with frustration and one filled with confidence.

We can always choose to perceive things differently. You can focus on what’s wrong in your life or you can focus on what’s right. – Marianne Williamson

Here are ten ways to stay positive – no matter what’s happening in your life. If you can stay positive no matter what life throws at you, you’ve got the freedom to change your life into anything you want it to be.

  1. Enjoy the Moment
    Make the most of every moment because life can change in an instant. While the present moment may be uncomfortable, it is the only one that is guaranteed. Look beyond the present problem and find the moments that are worth enjoying and then savor each one.
  2. 5 Happy Things Everyday
    Make a pact to recognize, and then celebrate, five happy things every day. No matter their size or significance, be sure to seek these happy things out and then hold them close so you can see their positive power.
  3. Empower Yourself
    Did you know that only 8% of the things you worry about actually come true? If you are worrying about the worst-case outcome of a situation, then make the choice to do everything you can to avoid it. Empower yourself to plan for the worse, but expect the best.
  4. Embrace Your Mistakes
    Accept the fact you are human, wonderfully, beautifully human, and then embrace your mistake as an opportunity to learn something new about yourself, and others. By becoming aware of your mistakes, you are able to move past them and prevent regret from keeping you stuck in the past.

    A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. – George Bernard Shaw

  5. Pay it Forward
    A positive attitude is contagious. When positive thoughts and feelings are filling you up, take time to spread your attitude. Pay your positive attitude forward and then witness the light you bring into the world.
  6. Learn to Say No
    Know when to say when. Over-committing and stretching yourself too thin is an invitation for negative thoughts to seek in. Create reasonable boundaries that, while they may push you, also keep you safe from anxiety.
  7. Hold Yourself Accountable
    Keep focused. Stay on your path. When you feel your positive attitude slipping away, hold yourself accountable for getting it back on track. No one wants your goals and dreams more than you do – and it’s going to take a positive attitude to make your dreams come true. It’s up to you to walk your path.

    Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anyone else expects of you.

     Henry Ward Beecher

  8. Be Grateful
    Negative thoughts suck energy from you quickly. Reverse the flow by learning to live in a more grateful state. Life does suck sometimes; it just does. But even on life’s suckyness days, find one thing that deserves your gratitude. When you do, you are now open to receive more of what’s right in your life.
  9. Right or Happy?
    Would you rather be right or happy? The need to be right creates negative thinking because of your reluctance to let go of whatever the issue happens to be. To stay positive, sometimes being right or wrong just isn’t that important.
  10. Let it Go
    Holding on to old, negative thoughts will create a barrier so thick that new, positive thoughts don’t stand a chance of getting through. So, let your negative beliefs go. Surrender them. Hand them over to your higher power. You were not born to be consumed by constant negative thinking. You were born to make a positive difference in this world. It’s time to let go and begin living the life you are meant to live. It’s time to stay positive – no matter what.

How to Not Make a Mountain Out of a Molehill

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One of the very best ways that I have found to make daily life easier, lighter, more positive and less stressful is to learn how to not make mountains out of molehills.

To learn how to not add extra drama or overanalyze or overthink things. To not create problems where there are none or there are simply very small issues you can fix.

Learning this has helped me to have fewer problems and worries in my work. And in my relationships. It also made my dating life more effortless and fun when I used to be single.

So I’d like to share the most effective ways that I have learned to do this.

And at the end of this post I’ll also share what I have spent most of my time with lately.

Quickly stop and reexamine your thoughts.

When I am starting to make a mountain out of a molehill and I am starting to sweat the small stuff then I usually use a stop-phrase.

As a big problem is starting to form in my thoughts I say in my mind: Hold on now…

This makes me pause and reflect on those negative thoughts that are starting to form.

I follow that up with asking myself these three questions to open my mind up and to reframe my thoughts.

Question #1: Who cares?

This one is simple and sharp and helps me to let go of small stuff. The stuff that doesn’t really matter in a relationship. An overly angry and attacking email I might get. Some nitpicking or unnecessary polishing on a task perhaps.

It helps me to realign with the smarter perspective where I just have time and energy for the most important things in life. It helps me to be cool about stuff instead of overreacting and wasting a chunk of my life.

Question #2: Will this matter 5 years from now? Or even 5 weeks from now?

This one is really powerful. It can make just about any difficulty seem pretty trivial and not as heavy as you might have imagined for the past few hours, days or weeks.

It is a question that has helped me many times to see an issue for how it really is and for how big it truly is. This sobering perspective makes it easy to start thinking more clearly again and to find a small step you can take today to move forward and to solve the issue.

Question #3: Does anyone on the planet have it worse than me right now?

This is one of quickest ways to stop feeling sorry for yourself in one of these mountain-building situations and to start feeling grateful for everything you still got.

By using this question and in my mind seeing how other people live and the issues they face my own narrow and self-centered perspective widens and becomes more positive and action-oriented.

Just by using these three questions I can usually deflate most self-made mountains in my mind and see a more helpful view of my life again.

If not, or if it just works partially, then I move on to the next step…

Talk it out with someone.

By talking to someone about the “big” problem in your mind and by letting it out into the light it becomes a lot easier to see the issue for what it really is.

Sometimes just venting to someone for a few minutes makes a huge difference and after a while you may start wondering what you were so worried or pessimistic about in the first place.

And at other times the person you are talking to can help you to find a more helpful and practical perspective by sharing his or her view and experiences in this area of life.

Replace the added drama with something more fun.

By making a firm decision to not add extra drama to your life to spice it up or to make it more exciting and instead making a choice to replace it with more interesting and fun stuff you can make life simpler.

How do you do that though?

One way is to get more of a life. To add more exciting, fun, interesting or fulfilling activities to your schedule and life.

By doing so you’ll have less time and energy to spare in your days and week to spend on making mountains out of molehills and creating drama. And you’ll have less need for that old drama-creating habit too because you are now making your life more interesting in another and healthier way.

The Mayonnaise Jar and the Two Beers

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When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 Beers.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

the mayonnaise jar and 2 beersThe professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full.. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’

The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand.The students laughed..

‘Now,’ said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things—your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions—and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.. The sand is everything else—the small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.

Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and mow the lawn.

Take care of the golf balls first—the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer represented. The professor smiled and said, ‘I’m glad you asked.’ The Beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of Beers with a friend.

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